Monday, July 16, 2012

The Secret to Real Progress

By Suzie Carr

We all have things we want to accomplish. We set out with great intention only to be sidetracked by our psyche urging us to turn the other way and enjoy the lure of things within easy reach instead. Maybe it’s that we want to be savvier with our money or get into better shape or gain more knowledge so we can prosper in our careers. These things all take time, focus, and drive. They require a significant amount of patience and motivation to acquire.

Short cuts just seem easier, don’t they? 

We’re all smart enough to know that to make any real progress, we must do the work. We can’t expect to run a company successfully without first acquiring the skill sets. We can’t expect to have a bestselling novel without first putting in the long hours of writing the book. We can’t expect to have healthy bodies without first treating our bodies with the respect of good nutrition and sensible exercise routines.

The reality then is that we need to work to get ahead on those things that we deem important.

As with any new venture, we set out on new goals fueled with what seems like a super human power. We might spend hours writing some fabulous scenes, reading a book on finance, or tackling the first week of a grueling exercise program. We feel on top of our game, fueled by euphoria from the first scene that took us on a glorious ride, from the first stock papertrade that went well, or from the first inch lost on our waistline.

Then, week two comes around and we find ourselves tempted to let the firm focus grip slide a little. Our old habits are staring us in the face begging for attention. To break an old habit, we need a sticking motivation something that will stand firm in the face of temptation.

A powerful motivator is usually an emotional one.

For instance, when it comes to my health, the drive is deeply rooted in a promise I made to myself after a great friend passed away 2 years ago. I will never again take my health for granted. He died of cancer too early in life and he would've given anything to have a healthy body. I have one, so I'm constantly reminded that I have to treat it with respect. It's almost like if I don't, then I'm disrespecting his battle. This is strong motivation for me tied inextricably to my emotions.

We’re all motivated differently. To find success, we must discover what makes us tick. If we don’t know yet what that thing is that’ll keep us strong in the face of adversity, we need to vigilantly keep searching for it.

Here’s one way: Reach out to others who are role models and doing what you want to be doing. Find out what keeps them focused and see if it mirrors your philosophies and touches you on an emotional level.

Never give up on your journey to discover the power that resides within you. It’s in all of us. 

Wishing you ultimate success in all you do,

Suzie Carr

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Gayle Stockdale said...

You are so correct. All the power resides within. I find trouble for myself when look outside. Thanks for an important reminder.

Alicia White said...


I agree on your words regarding motivation. It´s true that we need to discover "what makes us tick" and your example to keep fit is very graphic. I would also add that almost everything is about will, to have the will to do things is the key and that can be linked to motivation, how can you motivate? It´s definitely a state of mind. When we feel that we are in the dark or we are too lazy there is a problem there, so we also need the interaction with the people we love and we believe in (in my case that person is one of my sisters and also some friends)
To have positive and smart people in your life is essential (my humble opinion) There are too many "vampires" out there that are selfish and selfcentre that absorve your energy/blood like a vacuum cleaner. I don´t like to be with those people and avoid them as much as possible.
Maybe I ended up with in a different conversation path but I think all this is connected and make sense!!
A pleasure to be able to interact here.

Suzie Carr said...

@Gayle: I'm the same way - when I look outside for motivation, it never sticks. It's got to hit the heart and tug a bit for it to make a lasting impact...

@Evichipi: LOVED your description of the 'blood/energy-sucking vampires". Very accurate!

Anonymous said...

All can say is, you are a great writer. Keep it flowing. Zennuxe

Suzie Carr said...

@Zennuxe aw I appreciate your thoughtful comment. Thank you!