Thursday, November 3, 2011

The Destiny of Love

Today is my parent’s forty-ninth wedding anniversary so I feel inspired to write about love. 

When you consider all of the things that must align properly for two people to meet, falling in love is a remarkable miracle.

Is it luck or destiny that helps us find that special person with whom we share our lives? Is it random fortune that causes two people to meet in exactly the right place together at the right time? Or is it divine intervention that brought them to this place?

I have many people in my life who struggle to find that ‘special love’. They search bars, classrooms, corporate settings, and countless other places only to return solo. Defeat looms heavily on their shoulders as though in some way they think it is their fault that a magical spark didn’t happen between them and one of the millions of other people in the world.

Those successful in love will tell you that finding that right person is all about timing. I think about all the great relationships surrounding me. The one thing they all have in common is that they all bloomed from a single, defining moment in time when the two people had a clear path to each other, despite obstacles that stood in their way.

Here’s a clear example: my dad actually met my mom at a dance where he was on a date with her sister! My brother met his bride when on a random military leave for a day in South Carolina. A friend met her girlfriend in a college class that she decided to enroll in at the last minute.  Another friend met her husband when she had engine trouble one day and just happened to beg this mechanic, now her husband, for help. As is the case with all of these first meetings, paths crossed at the right moment in time.

When it comes to finding love, we never know when, where, or how it will come at us. One day we’re lonely, the next we are floating on the wings of love. To me, finding love is a hopeful pursuit. The waiting brims with hope for a bright future. One never knows when she will walk out of her front door and find that special person.

The hopeless romantic in me believes it takes more than chance for two compatible people to find each other in this great, big world. I’d like to think that it is destiny that brings us together with the ones we love.

Wishing you much love in your life,

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Karlene Petitt said...

A beautiful message of love. I believe in destiny... sometimes we have to be willing to open our eyes, our hearts and listen to the whispers of love- they will carry us to our heart's desire.

Suzie Carr - novelist said...

Thanks, Karlene. Beautifully stated;)